I have become convinced that Claremont McKenna needs to reform its investigation procedures in light of the witch hunt against me by my ex-girlfriend, Tina Nguyen CMC '11 (Thien-Nga Nguyen) and the college's unapologetic support of it.
Tina called me on May 18th. It was a strange number so I picked it up. I heard who it was when she spoke and then immediately hung up. She called back and left a voice mail on my machine.
In the message she admitted that she made up the whole thing because she "just didn't know how to get [me] to take it down." (She was referring to the blog post where I criticized her decision to make stuff up about me from high school and give it to a Twitter account.) She also admitted to cheating on me, which she had initially denied. She said she was a different person now. But how different could you be when you lie about accusations against a student? She said, "no matter what I tried to do, I never tried to get you expelled. You can ask Dean Spellman about that."
Right... which is why she falsely accused me of harassment and defamation and derailed the final semester of my academic career. If Tina is serious about being sorry, she could do the following: Apologize to me, write a letter which I will post online here admitting she lied, and ask the college to change its policies so that the accused can defend himself against false charges. Accusing a male student falsely about harassment is morally reprehensible -- and needs to stop before another student has to suffer the indignity and fear of having his life uprooted. It is especially unfair to the real victims of harassment, some of which have been my friends. Harassment is a very serious charge and it now seems obvious that the college is ill equipped to play judge, jury, and executioner in arbitrating disputes of this nature. I have heard of other students who have been harmed by the college's wanton disrespect of due process.
My parents worried that I wouldn't graduate -- Dean Spellman threatened me with not being able to graduate until the matter was resolved, even though I begged her to drop the investigation -- and I was seriously affected. I spent over 40 hours talking with lawyers, preparing letters, explaining to my scared girlfriend, friends, and family that I was totally innocent. I cringe to think what would have happened had I given in with all the pressure building up against me.
My grades suffered as a result and I am petitioning Dean Hess on Monday to have a few more days to resubmit my papers. (My professors and academic advisors have all OKed it.) If Tina really is sorry, she should write him a letter in my favor.
Tina called me on May 18th. It was a strange number so I picked it up. I heard who it was when she spoke and then immediately hung up. She called back and left a voice mail on my machine.
In the message she admitted that she made up the whole thing because she "just didn't know how to get [me] to take it down." (She was referring to the blog post where I criticized her decision to make stuff up about me from high school and give it to a Twitter account.) She also admitted to cheating on me, which she had initially denied. She said she was a different person now. But how different could you be when you lie about accusations against a student? She said, "no matter what I tried to do, I never tried to get you expelled. You can ask Dean Spellman about that."
Right... which is why she falsely accused me of harassment and defamation and derailed the final semester of my academic career. If Tina is serious about being sorry, she could do the following: Apologize to me, write a letter which I will post online here admitting she lied, and ask the college to change its policies so that the accused can defend himself against false charges. Accusing a male student falsely about harassment is morally reprehensible -- and needs to stop before another student has to suffer the indignity and fear of having his life uprooted. It is especially unfair to the real victims of harassment, some of which have been my friends. Harassment is a very serious charge and it now seems obvious that the college is ill equipped to play judge, jury, and executioner in arbitrating disputes of this nature. I have heard of other students who have been harmed by the college's wanton disrespect of due process.
My parents worried that I wouldn't graduate -- Dean Spellman threatened me with not being able to graduate until the matter was resolved, even though I begged her to drop the investigation -- and I was seriously affected. I spent over 40 hours talking with lawyers, preparing letters, explaining to my scared girlfriend, friends, and family that I was totally innocent. I cringe to think what would have happened had I given in with all the pressure building up against me.
My grades suffered as a result and I am petitioning Dean Hess on Monday to have a few more days to resubmit my papers. (My professors and academic advisors have all OKed it.) If Tina really is sorry, she should write him a letter in my favor.
11 comments:
You do this constantly to other people for far less personal reasons, Charles. You constantly prod, poke and harass people. This is a far cry from the humiliation and stress you have put on others during your 4 years here. Let it go. Move on. It's time to grow up and become a man.
+1
"Move on. It's time to grow up and become a man."
Like that's going happen! This is a gossip blog structured on infantile name-calling and bullying.
+1 to first anonymous. you are a fucking coward and deserved much worse.
Pot, let me introduce you to kettle.
you are an embarrassment to claremont mckenna. it's a shame they let you graduate.
Good job in fighting back and winning!
What did he win?
Fighting back for what? Nothing even happened to him. What did he suffer? A few uncomfortable emails? Had he just met with the Dean, answered the questions and got on with it, it wouldn't have taken an entire week to resolve. Charles makes things worse for himself through his cynicism, resistance to any authority and his total fear of society. There is no conspiracy here, Charles. No need to panic.
now you know how Wilner feels being accused of something
Sounds like a pretty terrible ordeal. Now imagine what it would have been like if someone intent on ruining your career and your life had been running daily briefs supporting the alleged reports of your accuser and then when your name was cleared they refused to update or acknowledge their error in the public forum. Sounds awful, no? Maybe there are lessons about harassment to be learned by everyone?
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